{"id":1961,"date":"2019-03-26T12:40:07","date_gmt":"2019-03-26T04:40:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/blog\/?p=1961"},"modified":"2025-08-22T18:09:43","modified_gmt":"2025-08-22T10:09:43","slug":"manage-your-new-helper","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/manage-your-new-helper\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Welcome and Manage Your New Domestic Helper"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Every domestic helper is different, just like every family is. You\u2019ll always encounter some difficulties when your new domestic helper starts. Your domestic helper may have years of experience but is not used to your way of doing things. Or you had a domestic helper who stayed with you for a long time so you worry that you\u2019ve forgotten <a href=\"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/how-to-handle-domestic-helper-problems\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">how to manage a domestic helper<\/a> with less experience. It will take communication and effort, but your relationship will get there eventually if managed correctly.<\/span><\/p><div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_81 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/manage-your-new-helper\/#Give_your_new_domestic_helper_time_to_settle_in\" >Give your new domestic helper time to settle in<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/manage-your-new-helper\/#Discuss_various_forms_of_access\" >Discuss various forms of access<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/manage-your-new-helper\/#Be_very_clear_on_your_house_rules_for_the_domestic_helper_and_keep_tracking\" >Be very clear on your house rules for the domestic helper and keep tracking<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/manage-your-new-helper\/#Take_the_helper_to_the_supermarket_and_wet_market\" >Take the helper to the supermarket and wet market<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/manage-your-new-helper\/#Be_ready_to_tackle_some_language_issues\" >Be ready to tackle some language issues<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/manage-your-new-helper\/#Open_communication_and_respect_work_two_ways\" >Open communication and respect work two ways<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-7\" href=\"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/manage-your-new-helper\/#Privacy_and_personal_space_for_both\" >Privacy and personal space for both<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Give_your_new_domestic_helper_time_to_settle_in\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Give your new domestic helper time to settle in<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Don\u2019t give the new domestic helper a lot of things to do on the first day. She may be overwhelmed with the size of your house, your kids, and her new surroundings. Remember it is also a big thing for her to move in with a completely strange family. Introduce her to your family, walk her through the apartment, explain your habits and check if she knows how your appliances work (you may have to teach her), show her the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/preparing-helpers-room\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">helper room<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400\"> and where she can store her belongings, explain what food she can eat and so on.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Discuss_various_forms_of_access\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Discuss various forms of access<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Give your domestic helper a house key and explain your rules on locking doors and windows. It may be difficult to give her a key at the beginning, but you don\u2019t want her to feel alienated right from the start. You hired her for a specific reason.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Also, discuss how she can contact you when you are not at home. Most domestic helpers have their own <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/smartphones-and-domestic-helpers\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">mobile phone<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400\"> and perhaps you want her to WhatsApp you daily. Or you just want to communicate over the phone. Don\u2019t forget to give her emergency contact information.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Be_very_clear_on_your_house_rules_for_the_domestic_helper_and_keep_tracking\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Be very clear on your house rules for the domestic helper and keep tracking<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Some rules can be open for negotiation, but others are not. The most transparent thing to do is to make a list of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/house-rules-for-domestic-helpers\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">house rules for your domestic helper<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">, even a work schedule, and to discuss these with her. Tell your domestic helper exactly what you like her to do and not do. She may also have some unwanted advice, especially when it comes to your kids. It means she cares, but ultimately you are raising them, and you may have certain things you find important. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Give your new domestic helper a notebook to keep track of expenditures and her daily tasks and time. This way you both keep track of everything she does, and a feeling of mutual trust can be billed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Take_the_helper_to_the_supermarket_and_wet_market\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Take the helper to the supermarket and wet market<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Do you have a favourite veggie lady who gives you the freshest vegetables? You will have to show your new helper how she can get there. You don\u2019t want her getting lost. Would you like her to buy certain brands at the supermarket? Show her where she can find those brands in the supermarket. She may never have heard of them. Take the time to show her and don\u2019t assume she will instantly know what your family likes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Be_ready_to_tackle_some_language_issues\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Be ready to tackle some language issues<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">English is not the first <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/overcoming-language-barriers\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">language of many domestic helpers<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">. Perhaps it is not even your native tongue. Be prepared that she may not understand everything immediately. Or that she says something you think is disrespectful. Tell her what you would like her to do again. Or explain why you don\u2019t like her using certain words. Don\u2019t take it personally or get frustrated. You will get there eventually! <\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Open_communication_and_respect_work_two_ways\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Open communication and respect work two ways<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Things can happen. That expensive vase can fall over while cleaning or your favourite t-shirt has shrunken in the laundry. Take a deep breath. Discuss the problems with your helper and try to find solutions together. After all, you are her employer so discussing things professionally can be a good way to stay clear of unnecessary trouble. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">As an employer, you should also give her the space to communicate her issues with you. Regular open discussion with your helper can help to build trust, identify and solve underlying issues before it is too late.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Privacy_and_personal_space_for_both\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Privacy and personal space for both<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Living with a domestic helper can be very intense, thus, it is important to draw a line and give both you and the domestic helper some personal space. Let your helper know if you prefer her not to touch certain things in the house such as your underwear drawer or your accounting shelf. Or whether she should eat with your family at dinner &#8211; sometimes domestic helpers prefer to eat alone so that they can enjoy their own moments. Also, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/internet-privacy-rules-domestic-helper\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">discuss internet privacy with your helper<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">, for example, whether she can post photos taken with your family members on her social media account.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">With these tips, you will be completely confident and proud of your healthy employer-helper relationship!<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Every domestic helper is different, just like every family is. You\u2019ll always encounter some difficulties when your new domestic helper starts. Your domestic helper may have years of experience but is not used to your way of doing things. 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