{"id":4359,"date":"2020-06-23T09:03:00","date_gmt":"2020-06-23T01:03:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/ec2-54-254-239-209.ap-southeast-1.compute.amazonaws.com\/?p=4359"},"modified":"2025-08-22T18:09:36","modified_gmt":"2025-08-22T10:09:36","slug":"domestic-helper-taking-good-care-children","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/domestic-helper-taking-good-care-children\/","title":{"rendered":"Is My Domestic Helper Taking Good Care of My Children?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Entrusting someone with the care of our children is in itself a pretty big leap of faith. Part of the job of being a parent is to make sure that our little ones are safe and always well taken care of. No matter how much we trust our domestic helpers, it is natural to worry \u2013 especially when we are away most of the day \u2013 and wonder whether our kids are well cared for. It can be difficult to know for sure that our domestic helpers are doing well with the kids without resorting to extreme measures i.e. <a rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" href=\"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/install-cctv-monitor-helper-singapore\" target=\"_blank\">nanny cams<\/a> \u2013 which can have counterproductive effects and <a rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" href=\"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/mending-strained-helper-employer-relationship\" target=\"_blank\">jeopardise<\/a> the trusting relationship \u2013 and keeping up with our expectations.<\/p><div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_81 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/domestic-helper-taking-good-care-children\/#Pay_attention_to_your_childrens_behaviour\" >Pay attention to your children\u2019s behaviour.<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/domestic-helper-taking-good-care-children\/#Observe_your_childrens_interactions_with_your_domestic_helper\" >Observe your children\u2019s interactions with your domestic helper.<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/domestic-helper-taking-good-care-children\/#Ask_your_domestic_helper_about_your_kids_daily_routine\" >Ask your domestic helper about your kid\u2019s daily routine.<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/domestic-helper-taking-good-care-children\/#Take_cues_If_your_child_appears_to_be_the_victim_of_too_many_accidents\" >Take cues. If your child appears to be the victim of too many accidents<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/domestic-helper-taking-good-care-children\/#Observe_your_childs_eating_and_sleeping_patterns\" >Observe your child\u2019s eating and sleeping patterns.<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/domestic-helper-taking-good-care-children\/#Inspect_your_childs_clothes_diapers_skin_and_toys\" >Inspect your child\u2019s clothes, diapers, skin and toys.<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"847\" src=\"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/handshake-e1581925848669-1024x847.jpeg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-6690\"\/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Here are some tips to help you find out if your helper is taking good care of your children:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Pay_attention_to_your_childrens_behaviour\"><\/span><strong>Pay attention to your children\u2019s behaviour.<\/strong> <span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>A child\u2019s behaviour and mood swings are pretty good indicators. Be careful not to read too much into this though: keep in mind that children need some time to adjust to a new caregiver and certain babies can suffer from separation anxiety. If after about 2 months \u2013 which is a relatively fair adjustment period \u2013 your children still don\u2019t want to be left alone with your helper or cry every time you leave them together, try to find out more as this might indicate that something is not right. If you detect any sudden changes or signs of sadness, anxiety or fear, it is worth looking into it more closely. If your children are old enough to communicate, do not hesitate to probe them for feedback.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Observe_your_childrens_interactions_with_your_domestic_helper\"><\/span><strong>Observe your children\u2019s interactions with your domestic helper<\/strong>. <span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>When children feel safe, comfortable and are well nurtured, they tend to develop bonds and get <a rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" href=\"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/help-child-prefers-helper\" target=\"_blank\">attached<\/a>. Keep an eye on how they react to your helper\u2019s presence. Do they give her big smiles almost every time she passes by? That\u2019s surely a good sign! If, however, no bond is being developed after quite some time, you might want to take a closer look and try to identify the root causes. While it might just be that there is no chemistry between them (it happens!), sometimes it can mean that something is just not right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"683\" src=\"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/patricia-prudente-qESmLLXAmWs-unsplash-1024x683.jpg\" alt=\"little girl with rainbow headband staring at tablet and learning with a smile\" class=\"wp-image-6731\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/patricia-prudente-qESmLLXAmWs-unsplash-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/patricia-prudente-qESmLLXAmWs-unsplash-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/patricia-prudente-qESmLLXAmWs-unsplash-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/patricia-prudente-qESmLLXAmWs-unsplash-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/patricia-prudente-qESmLLXAmWs-unsplash-2048x1365.jpg 2048w, https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/patricia-prudente-qESmLLXAmWs-unsplash-345x230.jpg 345w, https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/patricia-prudente-qESmLLXAmWs-unsplash-770x513.jpg 770w, https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/patricia-prudente-qESmLLXAmWs-unsplash-370x247.jpg 370w, https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/patricia-prudente-qESmLLXAmWs-unsplash-440x294.jpg 440w, https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/patricia-prudente-qESmLLXAmWs-unsplash-570x380.jpg 570w, https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/patricia-prudente-qESmLLXAmWs-unsplash-170x113.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Ask_your_domestic_helper_about_your_kids_daily_routine\"><\/span>Ask your domestic helper about your kid\u2019s daily routine. <span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Her answers \u2013 or lack of \u2013 should be able to tell you plenty. A good caregiver will understand why you want to learn more about how your kids spend their time when you are not around and will be open to sharing with you about it as much as she can \u2013 no matter how limited her <a rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" href=\"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/overcoming-language-barriers\" target=\"_blank\">communication<\/a> skills are. If she is reluctant to share details or appears to be secretive about certain episodes, you might want to look into the matter more closely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Take_cues_If_your_child_appears_to_be_the_victim_of_too_many_accidents\"><\/span><strong>Take cues. If your child appears to be the victim of too many accidents<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>You should definitely question your helper about that to understand what is happening when you are not at home. Frequent accidents might indicate that your domestic helper is not keeping her eye on them as she should and might even leave them unattended on occasions. Be vigilant as in some cases, frequent accidents, injuries and bruises might point out to neglect, mistreatment or even abuse. Those should be considered as red flags. Go to the bottom of things. If you have any reason to believe that your children are being mistreated or abused in any way, do not hesitate to contact local authorities.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"683\" src=\"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/baby-1-1024x683.jpeg\" alt=\"a lady feeding a baby a bottle of milk\" class=\"wp-image-6610\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/baby-1-1024x683.jpeg 1024w, https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/baby-1-300x200.jpeg 300w, https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/baby-1-768x512.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/baby-1-345x230.jpeg 345w, https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/baby-1-770x513.jpeg 770w, https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/baby-1-370x247.jpeg 370w, https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/baby-1-440x294.jpeg 440w, https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/baby-1-570x380.jpeg 570w, https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/baby-1-170x113.jpeg 170w, https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/baby-1.jpeg 1500w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Observe_your_childs_eating_and_sleeping_patterns\"><\/span><strong>Observe your child\u2019s eating and sleeping patterns<\/strong>. <span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>If they look overly tired or hungry, it might be a clue that they are not being properly fed or put to sleep at regular times. Question your helper about it and observe her reaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Inspect_your_childs_clothes_diapers_skin_and_toys\"><\/span><strong>Inspect your child\u2019s clothes, diapers, skin and toys<\/strong>. <span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Children tend to get messy way too often \u2013 that\u2019s a given \u2013 but that\u2019s no reason to leave them dirty and unkempt. If you notice that your child often has rashes, needs changing or cleaning up, it surely is a sign that your helper isn\u2019t doing her job as well as she should. You might want to consider having a little talk with her and reminding her about the <a rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" href=\"https:\/\/www.helperchoice.com\/c\/domestic-helper-baby-care\" target=\"_blank\">basics<\/a> when it comes to caring for a baby.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If your gut is telling you that something is not right, it might be time to talk to your helper to find out what\u2019s going on when you are away.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Entrusting someone with the care of our children is in itself a pretty big leap of faith. Part of the job of being a parent is to make sure that our little ones are safe and always well taken care of. 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